Think about the kind of leadership that earns YOUR respect. If you made a list, what characteristics it might that list include?
Consider:
Integrity
Patience
Setting a high bar and bringing out the best in self and others
Expertise
Team-building skills
Effective communication skills
Ability to inspire
Holding people accountable in a way that makes them WANT to do well
Whatever characteristics are on your list (and there are many desirable leadership traits), notice that your list probably does NOT include:
Dictatorial
Showing a lack of respect for others
Selfish
Ignorant
Angry (or other out-of-control emotions)
Consider how you want to lead—and what you want to avoid as a leader—on a macro level. Find ways to remind yourself on a daily basis of what the best version of yourself can be, and then strive to be that best self in as many aspects of your life as possible.